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I had my spiel all planned out for introducing myself at the new Toastmasters club. I was going to say how I’m running my own business as a doTERRA Wellness Advocate, how I’m in school to become an RN and want to become a nurse practitioner one day.
But to my dismay, I defaulted. I didn’t say any of that. I spoke enthusiastically, with a smile on my face, about how I had moved to this area with my husband in January 2015, who is in the Army and stationed at Ft. Bragg; that I’m really excited to be here!
I’m sure I’m not the only military wife who does this; who, upon meeting new acquaintances, immediately identifies herself as being married to a service member; who somewhat ignores what she herself has to offer.
Why is this so easy? Why do we push aside our accomplishments, our career, our goals? I’ve tried to analyze myself. Perhaps it’s because “my husband’s in the Army” is a safe, easy answer. Perhaps it’s because I’m thankful to be his wife. Perhaps it’s because, on a more negative level, the military is the career that seems to take precedence.
Do I love the military life? Despite its challenges, I sure do! Am I proud of my husband? You bet I am! But this doesn’t mean I need to lose my identity to the military. I’m still me. My career and goals still matter, and my husband is my biggest cheerleader in the things I want to accomplish.
I’m glad to have keyed into the fact that I tend to squelch myself, because now I have the power to not do it. So, if you’re a military wife who does what I’ve been doing: STOP. Let’s make a commitment together to not lose ourselves.